Something Is Happening At My House…

Something is happening at our house 🏡

 

✨It’s magic – pure and simple!✨

Ahh if only it was as simple as waving a magic wand alas, 3 years of no demands has finally started to give us our son back and, more importantly, him back to himself.

 

7 years of trauma, upset, not being believed, being told he needs to be ‘more resilient’ and ‘get over his anxiety’ -like it’s some sort of damn choice!

So what’s happening you ask?

Well it’s something only his closest family know OR can even recognise.

 

He’s started to come out of his room to ‘just hang out’🙌🏻

H has spent literal months in his room, only venturing out for the bathroom & food, unable to face the house, let alone the world.

His trauma runs deep and I totally understand why.

However 3 years of just allowing him to do what HE feels able to do…

3 years of always doing our best to help him understand it’s fun to come and join in.

3 years of constantly inviting him to do stuff with us and…

 

 

✨MOST IMPORTANTLY✨

TELLING HIM IT’S ABSOLUTELY OK TO NOT JOIN IN BUT THAT WE LOVE HIM JUST THE SAME.

 

3 years of me following my heart.

3 years of me unlearning ableism and many many years of unlearning the ‘listening to the professionals because ThEy KnOw BeSt’

I cannot tell you how long I’ve wanted this, dreamed of this, wished & hoped for this.

H came downstairs an hour ago and played & joked about with A.

He got interested in what I was doing – sorting my diary of all things.

He laughed at Normy Dad for singing too loudly whilst he did the washing up.

He drew smiley faces on post it notes.

And then:

When he wanted to, he pottered back upstairs to his sanctuary.

So the magic that’s happening is truly life changing-for H (and us as a family)

Please listen to YOUR hearts parents, you guys know your kids the best.

It’s worth the patience, I promise.

Love, Lizz xoxo